The Man and the Choice Mentality

It is no secret that the old man has more privileges than the modern man. What most people don’t realize is that the fundamental difference is the “choice mentality” of the old man.

The old man is the sole leader and the only one who sets conditions and makes those around him harmonize with him without changing his nature and compromising to harmonize with the surroundings. This trait he acquired because of his difficult surroundings, in which nothing is gained unless it is earned.

Acquisition and merit is the root of the modern man’s difference from the ancient man. The difference between the two is that earning is something that comes by merit, in contrast to entitlement, which comes from options that the person did not choose, such as (lineage, beauty, social status, etc.).

The modern man must abandon the illusions and heresies of democratization in choices and treat his choices as acquisitions, not entitlements. He realizes and understands that it does not come easily, and he has to optimize and take advantage of the opportunities that can be exploited.

A successful choice-minded person realizes that he must maintain and expand his choices and seek to improve them in accordance with his need for them. One of the things that strengthens the culture of choices for the modern man is that he cares about his scientific, career and practical level and seeks to improve his choices and set a schedule of priorities according to his situation.

The modern man has a golden opportunity more than the old man because most modern men are indoctrinated with ideas and habits that make them more like robots operating on a narrow range of options. This leads us to an obvious question. Does the choice mentality benefit men and enhance their status?

It’s no secret that having multiple options

High preference is a consequence of high preference: 1- More advantages 2- Less stress 3- More opportunities for improvement 4- Ability to do without.

The ability to do without is an important culture in the mentality of choices itself, as it is considered a pressure tool for the surroundings that improves the social behavior towards you and makes it treat you as an asset that cannot be wasted. Everyone strives to preserve you and provide you with a set of advantages that are owed to you and no one else.

On a practical level, expanding choices in working life has its advantages:

-Choose the terms of what works best for you

-Ensure alternative opportunities just in case

-Rapid increase in promotions

-High Functional Safety

-Increase in income

-Expanding alternative sources of income

And on the marital side:

-Ability to control the wife’s behavior

-Imposing a “pattern-condition-custom” for married life

-More stable life

-The ability to improve the quality of marriage

-Low-cost disposability

(the ability to do without)

The best example of this is a simple comparison between a man whose wife was pre-selected for him and another man who chose her according to his conditions.

First: This foolish man suffers from a culture of entitlement and believes that the wife is a goal for him, a blessing and a favor that he seeks in various ways to make her happy, and this is contrary to the female nature, so the female sees that this man is less than her in nature because he struggles himself to gain her respect and affection.

Second: A man with a choice mentality knows that it is conditional love and that the benefit is mutual, so he sets a pattern and makes her harmonize with him, which poses a challenge to her because he is by nature a man with options and multiple possibilities that reflect his nature positively on the fact that the woman sees him as a gain and an obsession and improves the behavior and strives herself not to count and go to others.

To conclude with these two cases, the loss (divorce) in the first case is a resounding harmful loss, and the man falls from a high mountain from which he comes out with a great loss on the moral and material sides, while in the other case, the divorce is a minor threshold that he overcomes and continues his way, if it happens at all.

To summarize the culture of choices in married life, “polygamy” : It is the first weapon of pressure in it, and for the old man, the origin of marriage in their society is considered to be polygamy, and the woman is a secondary thing that does not constitute an obsession for him, in which he can commit to it according to the condition of divorce, but with the modern man, the mentality prevailed that the woman is an independent entity and an achievement, so the man relates to her according to what she imposes as a prize for him.

We conclude that modern man has lost the cultures of his ancestors 300 years before him, creating an ideologized, feminized, entitlement man who is unlivable.

Advice: Create multiple options for yourself, earn your options to be available to you, always impose your conditions, and seek to create a heavy value for yourself that the ocean acquires and does not give away.

By: Fouzan

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